Making Change Work For You

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The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and we must rise with the occasion. As our case is new, so we must think anew and act anew“- Abraham Lincoln

Is there a change in your professional life on the horizon? If there are concerns about making any transition, it is only natural. Fear of change is inherent in many individuals. Stepping out of … Read More

Should You Come Out at Work?

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As a gay life coach, I spend a lot of time talking with men
about coming out. Often, the coming out process begins with close friends, and
then expands to include family, and eventually co-workers.

Colleagues are often last on our list for disclosure,
because of potential ramifications for our professional lives and our
livelihood. Although it’s a wonderful ideal to aim to be out and authentic in
all arenas, it’s wise to give thoughtful … Read More

Do You Need Positive Psychology?

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A blossoming school of thought in many centers of intelligence, positive psychology is not revolutionary in itself. But with the proper understanding and application this approach to life can certainly trigger a revolution in your life.

What Is Positive Psychology?

Basically, positive psychology is about researching, identifying and nurturing the good and happy elements of life. Not simply focusing on the silver lining or seeing the glass half full, this is truly a scientific study … Read More

Only You Get to Decide

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Power—or lack of it—comprises much of our daily experience in the workplace. But power is not just about what title or position you hold. Power can be based on a number of other factors, such as experience and skills, mental and physical attributes, status, and professional networks.
Yet no matter how talented you are at your job, certain situations may make you feel powerless at work. Vivian Scott, author of Conflict Resolution at Work For … Read More

Creating Yourself

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"Life
isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."

– George
Bernard Shaw

I love the quote above. It could almost serve as an anthem for
life coaching. Sometimes clients who start life coaching believe the process
will focus solely on uncovering and discovering who they are.

But there’s so much more to it than that. Discovery—or
“finding yourself”—is often part of the initial prep work you do with a life
coach. This leg … Read More

Choose To Be A Master Of Choice

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One of my early mentors taught me the valuable lesson that "every moment is a new opportunity to choose."

This is an incredibly valuable insight when we are feeling trapped by circumstance or faced with amazing competing opportunities.

Remembering that we always have a choice is the precursor to experiencing true freedom. You can choose to exit a relationship right now. You can choose to switch careers and make less money right now. You can … Read More

What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed

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Overwhelmed?
Use the 4D model. Do it, Delegate it, Delay it or Delete it. Fast way to
simplify.”

-Mark Strong

I posted the quote above on Mark Strong Coaching Facebook
just a week before 2012 began. It seemed to hit a nerve in the life coaching
community, as preparing for the start of a new year can be a recipe for
overwhelm.

Now only a few weeks into the journey, with your sights set
on … Read More

Creating Yourself

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“Life
isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

– George
Bernard Shaw

I love the quote above. It could almost serve as an anthem for
life coaching—but it also has special meaning for gay men. Coming out is an act
of creation. So is being true to who you are. Having the strength to own all
parts of you, despite the lack of acceptance that you may sometimes face, is
all about creating … Read More

Make Decisions Based on Joy: Try the Tummy Test

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How do you make decisions? If you’re like most people, you may rely primarily on your head—your logical, rational side—and perhaps to a lesser degree, your heart or emotions.
While head and heart are both important factors in decision-making, there’s another element to consider. This third factor is sometimes referred to as the “Tummy Test.” 
The Tummy Test is about listening to your gut, or your intuition. Have you ever been on the verge of … Read More

What Should You Do With Your Life?

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My answer to the question raised in the title is simple—but not
easy. It is to work at your own point of “intersection.”

To get a visual of what I’m talking about, check out the photos
on the wall of the Mark Strong Coaching
Facebook page. Two images on the wall show interlocking circles, which
give two different examples of the same idea. The idea is that what you should
do with your life can … Read More